As single women, we oftentimes miss the opportunity to experience the fullness of God because our focus is on the future. There seem to be the looming questions of what the future will hold, or not hold, and we can potentially spend more time worrying about the future than finding peace and contentment exactly where we are. The present is a beautiful thing, and time is so very precious. I think it’s normal to think about the future, but as single women there are things God wants to reveal to us here and now. There is a greater purpose that lives in all of us, and I’m certain that God wants to use us in the season we are in.
If you’re like me, you’ve gotten your heart broken a couple of times and well, I’ve decided that I’d rather wait a million years for the one God has for me than to settle for what is convenient. Moreover, time and time again God has shown me that His timing is best and in that space between asking those hard questions and receiving an answer from God, that is when we learn to depend on Him. It’s in that space that God shows up in ways we never imagined and blows our minds. This is where we develop relationship with Him, and that is key for all of us single girls because it will indeed translate into every area of our lives, including patiently and confidently waiting on God to reveal our future to us.
Excerpt from She Believes: 75 Devotionals to Encourage, Motivate, and Inspire:
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. Proverbs 31:25
To be strong is to be confident. To be clothed in dignity is to take pride in oneself. To laugh at the days to come means that we are not living in fear of what could be or might not be.
I can tell you that in my 20’s I was very lost. I sought after all the wrong things to make me feel like I was special. I missed the opportunity to truly experience God in that season of my life because I told myself I had all the answers. Let’s just say that was an epic fail. Thankfully God’s love and mercy follow us in both seasons of confusion and in seasons of discipline. Now as a 32-year-old Christian woman, I can tell you that being single is worth embracing. It is not something we need to overcome like the world tells us. No, instead it is a beautiful and unique opportunity to develop the single most important relationship we will ever encounter on this earth.
I must admit that I have my days when my thoughts try to get the best of me. I quickly remind myself that I am God’s child and He knows what’s best for me. As such, no matter if you are dating or feel like the most single girl in the world, I want to encourage you to let God fill those gaps of loneliness and uncertainty about the future. This world tells us that we are somehow incomplete if we don’t have this or that, but as children of God we must never forget that His best for us can never be matched by this world.
The best way we can manage those negative thoughts or even moments of anxiety is to go right back to God’s word. Daily reminders are critical to our growth as single Christian women. Yes, life gets busy but it is so very important to make time for God. I like to say that Jesus Christ is our secret weapon. He is that force in our lives that is constant, and there is complete peace in knowing that. Frankly, total surrender to God is not something that happens overnight. It is a process, but it is absolutely worth it!
Let God guide you and influence your perspective on singleness. Find strength in knowing that our God is intentional and would never withhold any good thing from us. God has a plan, my friend, and when He begins to reveal it to you, there will be no room for doubt. Trust the process and trust God’s timing. You may be single, but you are so much more than that because YOU are the daughter of the Most High. Remember that seasons change, but don’t miss all that God wants to teach you right where you are.
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This week on the blog we are discussing different stages of relationships. Read more by clicking the links below:
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