This book (Fake ID's) is what I would tell my 20 year old self. It really is. If I could go back in time, I would hand myself this book, tell myself to quit cutting my own hair, and jet back to the future where I happily live with my awesome husband and 2 sweet little kids.
In fact, if I were able to tell my younger self just 10 things—and only 10 things—the list would look like this:
1. Someday you will get married and have a family, but—THANK YOU GOD—you dodged a bullet. Your husband is no one you know now.
2. God is not pacing the clouds ready to strike you dead...or at the very least, miserable. Learn about His true character; it will change you.
3. Those friends that intentionally give you bad advice or try to drag you down? They are not your friends. That hurts, but not nearly as much as you will hurt yourself following their bad advice.
4. Eventually you will marry someone you date. Do you really want to marry someone who got fired for stealing from CVS? Think about it.
5. If a hot guy notices you in your tight shirt...so will that old man at McDonald’s.
6. Quit beating yourself up. Even about your shirts.
7. Give Christians a fair shot. Some will be obnoxious, but some won’t. You need some spiritual guidance right now. Find it.
8. You have many talents, but making your own clothes? Not one of them.
9. College is not the time of your life—and that’s okay. Cramming a lifetime’s worth of fun into four years is more pressure than it’s worth. The best is yet to come.
10. Keep the main thing the main thing. A relationship with Jesus Christ eventually transforms you. It’s where you find confidence. You won’t have to fake it anymore.
Because of my desire to time travel and tell my younger self what I wish I would have known then, I’ve spent the last decade of my life mentoring college girls. Even though the sting of my memories is gone, my passion for young women to know their value continues to grow.
So if you are in the process of figuring things out too: I know you’re searching, trying, working, and striving. I know you’re hungry, tired, confused, and lonely. I know you’re flipping to the back cover of the book to see if I’m a loser or not. Sure, you’re checking me out. But I would have done the same thing at your age...and—okay, okay—maybe I still do.
I remember how hard it is to “be yourself” when you have no clue who you really are. My hope is that whether you think I’m totally lame/ugly/stupid OR completely awesome/beautiful/smart you at least hear this one thing: It is what God thinks of you that matters and determines your worth.
God delights in us in our best moments, but He still loves us in our lowest, most disgusting moments too. As someone with more than a few lackluster moments of her own, this is life-changing news. For this reason, the message of Fake IDs is pretty simple:
God loves you. You don’t suck.
Even though I grew up in church, I missed this somehow.
This weeks theme on the blog is based of the book, Fake ID's, written by Katie Humphress. You can purchase Fake ID's by heading over to our shop.
Read more Dear Younger Me's by clicking below:
Dear Younger Me: Andrea
Dear Younger Me: Emily