We asked a coupe of of our Writing Ambassadors what their Fake ID was. Check out their answers below.
The word “overachiever” was used to describe me quite a bit growing up. There were some people (teachers, mentors, etc.) that said it as a good thing, praising my work ethic and various achievements. Others were much more judgmental. I had classmates, for example, who would sneer and snicker behind my back in classes.
Me? I had no idea who I was. But if everyone else saw me this way, maybe that meant they were right. So, I accepted the label. I was an overachiever. And I struggled with this Fake ID for years. Trying to maintain this façade (achieving and achieving and achieving the most and best that I could) wore me down and fast. I was failing to live up to who I thought I was supposed to be. Suddenly, I was at the end of myself. And I didn’t know who I was (or even could be) without this Fake ID.
Then, God intervened. My junior year of college, my best friend and I were studying late one night when she told me about Jesus (and though I knew of Him, I didn’t really know who He was). In that moment, I finally realized my true identity. I was a child of the King, whole and complete in Jesus. It was at that moment I fell in love. I had a good, good Father who made me for and with a purpose. He calls me special. He calls me chosen. He calls me beloved. And it doesn’t matter what “successes” and “failures” I’d had in the past; His love for me is just as great today as it was yesterday, as it will be tomorrow. And in that moment, my life was changed forever. A little while later, I discovered Ephesians 2. It was this passage that kept me grounded (whenever I felt the self-doubt creeping up) in His unconditional, agape love. To this day, the following two verses are my all-time favorites. I turn to these if I ever doubt who I am or what I’m capable of, reminding myself of my eternal worth in God’s eyes.
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith — and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God — not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
-- Ephesians 2:8-10
Growing up, my friends saw me as the “good girl.” I never broke the rules, I never snuck out of the house, I never drank, and I waited the full six months after getting my license to drive others. It’s pretty obvious I was not a rebel.
My freshman year of college was no different from high school. I wasn’t out drinking like the rest of the freshman population. I wasn’t kissing strangers or staying up till 2 am. I was OK with my “good girl” reputation until my sophomore year. All it took was one drink to make people notice me. I had never received praise or validation for staying in and not drinking but drinking changed that for me. Boys started to notice me, my sorority sisters started to hang out with me more, it seemed like kissing my “good girl” reputation good-bye was the key to being popular.
The problem with being a “good girl” is that it’s a hard Fake ID to get rid of. After a while, having a drink wasn’t so bad, so I had to step up my game. I didn’t want to be the boring “good girl,” so I did whatever I could to be exciting, spontaneous, and reckless. My desire to distance myself from my Fake ID led me to bad decisions and unnecessary heart-ache. After months of terrible decisions, God began to change my heart. He helped me see that my true identity is found in who He says I am, not what other people say. God always noticed me, even when other people didn’t. When I felt invisible, He was calling me set apart. Understanding God’s unconditional love for me helped me lose my Fake ID and cling to my true identity: daughter of the King.
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart - Jeremiah 1:5