1. Everyday you’ll doubt yourself. You’ll second guess what you’re doing and you’ll overthink everything. You’ll wonder if you’re cut out for this Mom business. Remember, this precious gift you are holding - is from the Lord, who loves you and knows you. He is with you always. He’s placed instincts inside of you for a reason, so follow them. Your intuition is the best thing for you and your baby. Try not to do what the world tells you and don’t feel guilty for doing what is right.
2. You’ll fall deeply in love. Maybe not right away… But you will. And this love will be so great, you’ll suddenly fear loss. And you will have to learn to DAILY give up this fear to God.
3....And when you fall in love, your definition of love will completely change. Suddenly, you’ll realize exactly how much your parents truly love and care for you. You’ll also understand the magnitude of God’s love and be completely in awe.
4. You will change because your priorities have changed. You’ll realize that your friendships will change. But don’t worry, you will make new Mom friends. Lean on these women for strength and courage and for comic relief when times are tough.
5. You’ll learn to give yourself grace. You will miraculously function on very minimal sleep for months and months and because of this, you’ll become very forgetful.
6. You will need help. No matter how stubborn you are, you will hit a breaking point. Just go ahead and ask for help. Also remember that other Moms really understand this…
7. Be kind to yourself. Make time to escape. You probably won’t realize you need it until you are alone, so just do it anyway. Even if it’s a quick trip to the grocery store.
8. There will be tough days. It is normal, but just know that these days don’t last. Eventually they will get better, and at the other end your baby will change; whether it be a smile or a sweet voice saying “mama” all the frustration will be worth it. So stick it out. We call these mental leaps, and one of the best resources to prepare for leaps is called “The Wonder Weeks.”
9. The roller coaster of hormones is physically and emotionally exhausting. You’ll be hot and sweaty some nights, and weepy in the evenings. Cry if you need to, but don’t make any “life changing decisions” during this time. Talk things out. Post-partum you will feel fragile. It will pass, this isn’t forever. I promise, you’ll get back to yourself.
10. Live in the moment. Time will fly, so snuggle and hold your baby. Take in every day, every moment, every hour. Learn to live slow. One day, your baby will be grown, all in a flash before your eyes and you’ll want to have all of those sweet memories.
Verses that have helped me through this new season of Motherhood:
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
The fruit of the womb a reward.
Do not be anxious in anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
How great is the love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called children of God!
1 John 3:1
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.