5 Tools to Help Battle People Pleasing

  • Remember where your worth comes from

No person, thing, or accomplishment can make you worthy of love. You are valued and loved because you are God’s daughter. Focus on that truth instead of worrying about other people liking you.

“And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God's glory.” (Romans 8:17)

  • Pray before making decisions

When facing a decision, pray about it. God delights in guiding our steps. He is the ultimate source of wisdom over anyone or anything that we could look to for guidance.

“For the Lord grants wisdom! From his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” (Proverbs 2:6)

  • Go with your gut (after praying)

You can ask 200 people what to do, and you’ll get 200 different answers. Pray about it, and then do what feels right.

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” (Romans 12:2)

  • Don’t let the minority feel like the majority

Oftentimes 1 negative opinion suddenly feels like 100 negative opinions. Don’t be fooled into discouragement over the voice of a few. The critics are often louder than the supporters, but that doesn’t mean they represent the majority.

“What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us?” (Romans 8:31)

  • When in doubt, ask those whom you trust

It is crucial to surround yourself with a circle of believers who love you and want the best for you. If you feel tempted to make a decision to please others, seek the guidance of a mentor or friend who will be honest with you. You might not hear the popular answer, but sometimes the hard thing is the best thing.

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another” (Hebrews 10:24-25).


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