Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
- Galatians 1:10
God calls us to be servants just like Jesus was. We are called to love others and help our brothers and sisters in Christ. Jesus’ heart behind His servitude was always love, not approval. So when we are helping others, we should take the time to ask “Am I doing this because I want to love this person well or because I want him/her to like me?” Our motivation for everything we do should be to bring glory to God, not ourselves.
I used to think people pleasing was a weakness I just had to live with. But then, I learned why it doesn’t honor God. This helped me see it as a struggle I could turn from instead of a weakness. If you find that you struggle with people pleasing, you’re not alone. You probably struggle with it because you have a heart geared towards servitude. You can still help others without being walked on or bringing glory to yourself. It’s all about your intentions.
Am I helping this person because I want to love him well or because I want him to like me?
Do my actions bring glory to God or to myself?
Am I changing ____ about myself/joining in ____ activity because I want to or because I think it will make me more popular?
Father, thank You for showing me what a true servant looks like through Jesus. Help me to check my intentions with You before I act so that I can honor You in the way that I love others. Forgive me for trying to gain the world’s approval when You have already given me all the acceptance I will ever need. Thank You for loving me so well.