But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. - Matthew 6:33
I have been single for all 21 years of my life. This has been a huge challenge in not only trusting God’s plan, but also in knowing my value. One of my greatest struggles has been trying to find my worth outside of my relationship status. I have gone through so many days of romanticizing the idea of relationships and believing that they would make me whole. I believed that if a guy thought that I was beautiful and worthy, I would start to feel those things about myself. It does not work that way. The only person that can heal your broken heart is Jesus. If you put all of your hope in being loved by others, you will certainly be disappointed.
It is not easy being single when a relationship is something you want so dearly. If I’m being honest, I am not content with being single, and that is ok. I think we are so often told that we should just focus on God, and stop thinking about guys, and as soon as we do that, He will provide us with a seemingly perfect Godly man. Maybe that statement is true for some people, but I don’t think that it is bad to have a Godly desire to marry a Godly man. I have felt so guilty wanting a relationship and feeling pain over it. I know that God will use that pain for good, and He will heal my broken heart. God knows my intentions are pure, and I am trusting that He will provide when the time is right.
That is so easy to say, but hard to actually live out. I have to constantly remind myself that God is in control and what I want for myself may not be what is best. Sometimes I get completely terrified that I will be alone forever. But I am reminded in 1 John 4:18 that God’s perfect love casts out all fear. In this time of my life, all I need is His love, and I am so comforted by that.
If you are not single and you are reading this, you probably have single people in your life. Support them, and be with them through this season. It isn’t easy to be the only single person in a group of friends, and we often feel left behind. Remind them how much God loves them and how they are valued.
I pray that you remember that you are worth more than your relationship status. You are loved and cherished by God, and by those around you. When you feel alone, reach out to God. He knows your pain and He is there for you. He is a constant and will always be there to pick you up. Even if you are not content with this phase of your life, God can use it to do amazing things!
1. Why do I want a relationship? Is it for my own personal gain, or to bring glory to God?
2. How can I support my single friends who are struggling in this season of their life?
3. How is God using me to bring Him glory in this time of my life?
Dear Heavenly Father,
I am so thankful that I am never alone, and that Your perfect love casts out all fear. I pray that You remind me that Your plan is way better than anything I can imagine. Comfort me in my pain, and show me that I am never alone. Thank You for all the blessings You have provided in my life. Amen.
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