Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. - Galatians 6:4
Earlier this week someone remarked: “Your child is so much smaller in comparison with …”
That’s when I allowed my mommy-emotions to get the better of me.
I knew the facts: - We had our wellness check a few weeks ago and she is well within average weight and size for her age - She has a healthy appetite and has reached all her milestones thus far - I know that growth charts are a mere guideline and that every child is unique in her growth and development - The child she was being compared to is older anyway!
Armed with the above facts, I should have shrugged off the remark and continued with my day, instead of worrying about it. But that is what comparison does to us; it creates turmoil. I read somewhere that comparing your child to another limits your child’s potential. The same goes for us: if we compare ourselves with others we can create a low self-esteem. And so often the images that we compare ourselves to are far from real.
Sometimes comparison also makes you feel better about yourself, which can lead to pride.
Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall. - Proverbs 16:8
We create desire by comparing our earthly belongings, our marriages, our achievements and even our children.
You must not covet your neighbour’s house. You must not covet your neighbour’s wife, male or female servant, ox or donkey, or anything else that belongs to your neighbor. - Exodus20:17
We create an opportunity for jealousy to rule our lives when we compare ourselves with others and find ourselves falling short by the standards of this world.
For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind. - James 3:16
Instead of comparing ourselves to others all the time, let’s embrace our unique design in God. He did not create us to be compared to world standards. God measures in Heavenly standards, and by those standards we are all loved by God in a unique manner.
1. Are you comparing yourself against posts on social media? Is it causing you distress? Have you considered taking a break from social media for a while?
2. Are you comparing your children or your husband/boyfriend or lack thereof? What is that doing to your relationships and how is that making you feel?
Dear Lord, thank You that You love each and every one of us and that You created us in a unique manner.
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