Don't Make It Your Goal to Change Who You Are

So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority. - Colossians 2:10

New year, new me?

When I would turn my calendar to January 1st, I would think about how I could improve myself—lose a little weight, study harder, be more outgoing. I needed to change because I felt incomplete in who I was. I needed to be beautiful, intelligent, and popular.

My worth was defined by my ability to successfully change who I was into the person I thought I needed to be. However, at the end of December, I would look back on my year dissatisfied. No matter how hard I tried, I never reached my goal.

So, as another year began, I would prepare my goals, determined, this time, to succeed. I needed to do better; I needed to be better.

This concept consumed me. How could I improve myself? How could I get to the place where I felt happy, where I felt complete?

It’s taken twenty-one years of “failure” to realize that I’ve had the answer to happiness and completeness my entire life.

Happiness and completeness are found in Christ.

Psalm 16:11 states, “You will show me the way of life, granting me the joy of your presence and the pleasures of living with you forever.”

The life I’ve longed to have isn’t found in a slim waist line, 4.0 GPA, or Instagram followers.

The life I’ve longed to have is found in my completeness through Christ.

This year, my goal isn’t to change who I am. My goal is to embrace who I am in Christ and enjoy the fullness of His presence.


What things about your life do you want to change this new year?

Will the things you want to change truly benefit you, or when the year is over, will they only leave you dissatisfied?

How can you begin to feel complete in Christ this new year?



I’ve sought happiness and completeness from so many sources. I thought I would find it in my outward beauty, my intelligence, and my human relationships. But Abba, my completeness is found in You. Your love, Your goodness, and Your grace make me complete. You are my joy, my happiness. Thank You for making me complete. I love You, Abba. Amen



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