For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works,
which God prepared in advance for us to do.
- Ephesians 2:10
I have never been good at being by myself, and in this world women are often told that if they are without a man then they are alone. From being surrounded with this belief for most of my life, I often allow myself to start to use relationship statuses to compare myself and judge how well I am doing. Somewhere in life, I convinced myself that if a boy chose me then I would finally feel like I was enough.
This is not what God wants for us. It is important to remember that God has us where we are for a reason. If we are single, God is using it and we should trust that He knows what's best for us. There are many ways to enjoy your singleness, however, I think they can all be summed up by saying “Fix your eyes on Jesus.”
One of the most common things I see for single women is that we treat our single periods of time as gap years; so many of us are sitting in this hollow waiting room as we allow our years to go by.
It is easy to fall into the thought that your life doesn’t really start until you find love. From this, we forget to be fully present in our current lives as our hope is in the arrival of a man. What we need to remember is that Jesus is our source of hope and He is, and forever will be, enough for us.
I feel that being single is sometimes Him showing us that He is the only one we need. We single women should remember this and use this time to grow deeper in their relationship with the Lord. In singleness we can increase our confidence in our relationship with Him.
If you are having a hard time being single it is important to ask yourself why. Do you actually not like where you are at in life or are you just worried about never finding anyone? Are you scared for your future? “Do not be afraid” is one of the most frequent and important commands in the Bible.
God says He has got us. He says to rest in Him. He tells us to follow Him. Let us do that. Our amazing God has given us purpose and he wants to use us. If we are distracted in searching for our future husband we could miss all the opportunities to glorify Him.
It is okay to want a husband; what is not okay is thinking that your life will be completed once you find one. Our lives are completed when we accept Jesus Christ into our hearts and lives. Pray to Him and say yes to Him. Try to be present in the moment and in His call for you. I admit that this is not easy; I constantly struggle with being completely satisfied in my relationship with Him. However, the more time we spend with Him and following Him, the more we will truly see that we are not alone when we have Him. Jesus really is the true love of our lives; let yourself rest in the arms of the one who created us.
1. Do you struggle to feel complete while being single?
2. How can you remember to be fully present where God has you?
3. How can you glorify God where He has you?
Lord, I thank You for being the one to make us whole. I pray that You help us remember that You have given us purpose. I pray that we use our circumstances to glorify You. You are so good and we love You, Amen.
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