Like any other relationship it is important that we seek God when we are dating. Whether you’ve just been on a few dates or have already defined the relationship, it is never too soon to start asking questions and see where you may be led. I know it can seem weird sometimes to ask the tough questions, but thinking of God like He’s your bestie upstairs can make it seem less intimidating. Every love story is different, but below are a few ideas of where you can start when talking to God about your current relationships.
1. Are we dating intentionally?
A good question to chat with God about over the course of your relationship could be as simple as checking in to see if you are dating intentionally. Meaning are you dating with the intention of seeing if you would want to marry this person? In today’s “hanging out” and “hook up” culture it’s important to understand the reason you are dating someone.
2. Is this relationship ultimately drawing me closer to God?
As women, I think it’s important that we look at our relationship or boyfriend and figure out if together we are drawing closer to God or further from Him. If you find that you are with someone who is making you lose that fire you once had or maybe they belittle you for your faith, that may be a sign that it’s not the healthiest relationship to be in.
3. Do we point each other back to God during struggle?
At some point in a relationship you will have disagreements or struggles. What’s important is how you react and what you do afterwards. If he’s going through something do you encourage him? Or maybe you guys had a fight. Does one of you lash out and go MIA for days instead of pushing through and communicating? I think that, regardless of the individual situation, it is so important that we can point each other back to truth.
4. Are there any red flags that I may be missing?
Sometimes in a relationship that we really want to work out we can find ourselves going through it with our blinders on. This is why another thing we could ask is for God to reveal to us if the person may not be right for us. There have been so many times that I could have just saved myself some trouble if I would have listened to a gut feeling or consulted God before entering into a dating relationship.
5. How can I show him Your love today?
Lastly, you could pray for God to help you love your significant other well. We all have different ways that we receive/feel love, so why not ask for Him to help show you the ways that you can show His light and love to the person that you are with?
Whether you have just started dating or you have been together for years, one of the best ways to have a happy and healthy relationship is to keep God at the center.
Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.
– Romans 12:10
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