So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.
- 1 Corinthians 10:31 NIV
Singleness is a gift. It took me awhile to wrap my head around this idea to be honest. I used to wonder why I always seemed to be the single person amongst my group of friends. Then I realized, singleness is a short period of my life and that I must utilize it to do things I wouldn’t otherwise be able to if I wasn’t single. Singleness is a time of preparation God uses for mending and preparing your heart for the next stage in your life. Think about it. This is the time in your life where you can devote it to bettering yourself, serving others, and doing radical and time-consuming things for the kingdom of God. There is nothing more precious than the season you are in where it gets to be just you and God.
While you wait, learn to make Jesus front and center of your life. If you're not satisfied in Jesus and Jesus alone, you will place that other someone as the front and center of your life rather than Jesus. There is no person that can satisfy you in life besides God alone. We are human, we are meant to make mistakes, but we are not here to satisfy others. Marriage will not solve the issues you have as a single person. Your future spouse cannot be your end-all be-all. (Psalm 17:15)
Practice self-control and learn to be content. Practicing self-control goes for all areas: temptation, anger, desire, money, etc. Learning self-discipline can do measures for your life. It teaches you patience, resilience and learning to discipline yourself and putting God above your own desires. The art of contentment teaches you to be content where you are and with what you have. It will allow you to flourish in the blessings you already have and to establish a sense of security. Allow God to work in your life, practice selflessness, and learn what you can about marriage.
Different seasons occur in our lives for different reasons. God wants you to be successful in all of your relationships. Your state of singleness is vitally important, not just to you, but to God. He wants to give you vision, reveal purpose, and for you to know who you are without another person. If not, you’re always going to need another person to validate who God has created you to be. Remember that being alone is not the same thing as being single. Single means being unique, set apart, and completely whole. And you are still single until you say, “I do.”
Most of us negate the season we are in, trying get to a preferred future we don’t know about. Singleness may be the most important time of your life. Rest in the season you are in. Until you reach the point of being OK with being single, loving God, and loving yourself, your relationships will always be the place where you reach for fulfillment that can never result from it. The only thing that is unchangeable, unmoving, and unwavering is the Word of God. In the meantime, as you wait, hope in Jesus, not in marriage. Jesus is your hope.
1. Is Jesus front and center of my life? If not, how come?
2. Am I placing my hope in a future relationship or in Jesus?
3. What do I need practice to better prepare myself in my state of singleness?
Lord, allow me to rest in this state of singleness I am currently in. Help me to do radical and time-consuming things for Your Kingdom. Allow me to be enraptured with my relationship with You and maximize my state of singleness to minimize any distractions. Guard my heart. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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