Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
- Proverbs 31:10-12
I used to think that preparing for marriage was something that didn’t start happening until you became engaged, or started dating at the very least.
But then I read the verses above and I see that it says a virtuous wife brings her husband good all the days of her life. Not just after she meets him and not just after they start dating. Not even after they get engaged or after the wedding day. All the days of her life. Every single one of them.
If God has marriage in my future, then am I bringing my husband good today? When I might not even know who he is? Am I preparing for my future marriage now to be the best wife that I can be for the glory of God?
Maybe you’re single and wondering if you’ll ever find someone that could last in your life for more than one date. Or maybe you’re dating a great guy and you’re wondering when he’ll ever pop the question. Or maybe you’re even engaged and frantically counting down the ticking days to your big day and trying to prepare in all the best ways. No matter where you find yourself today as you read this, I want to encourage you with four ways that you can prepare for “I do” and marriage now.
1. Start praying for your future husband now.
If it’s in God’s will for your life to be married someday, what better gift to give him than to pray for him every day? Even if you don’t know him yet, you can start praying for him to become the man God wants him to be. It’s never too early to start praying for your future man!
2. Develop character.
If you’re anything like me, you might have a list written out of character qualities that you want your future husband to have. And if you’ve already met him and he matches all the important ones, that’s awesome! But do you match the important ones? Some of my important ones include: being kind, compassionate, humble, Godly, and sensitive. So am I all of those things? Am I kind and compassionate and all of those other things I hope for in my future husband? And if I’m not, then what can I start doing today to develop that character more in my heart and life so I’m ready when prince charming and I say, “We do”?
3. Seek Godly advice and counsel.
Who do you know in your life that leads a Godly marriage? Is there an older couple in your church or community that displays what a God-centered marriage should look like? Begin developing a relationship with them and come alongside of them to learn how they do it. Ask their advice and observe what they do that creates a meaningful marriage. If you’re already dating or engaged, perhaps they could be willing to mentor you or double date. Listening to Godly advice and counsel is always a good idea.
4. Fall in love with Jesus.
Sometimes as ladies we can tend to think that, “once our prince charming rescues us,” then we’ll be truly happy. Listen close, dear heart. Your Prince has already come to rescue you and He already loves you beyond what you could imagine or think. No man could ever love you like Jesus. So fall into His love. Become so focused on falling in love with Him that any guy who falls for you has to love Him just as much. Only Jesus can fill the empty places in your heart--not a man and not a marriage. Fall in love with Him more today.
Maybe the wedding march is in sight for you or maybe you’re still singing along to Ed Sheeran in the car wondering when you’ll ever find true love. No matter where you find yourself, remember that marriage is a beautiful season and gift from God, but it’s not the only one. Embrace whatever season of life God has you in right now and prepare for whatever season He may call you into next.
1. What are some practical ways you have begun preparing for “I do” in your life?
2. Why do you think it is important to prepare for a marriage and not just your wedding day?
3. How can you bring good to your future husband today, even if you don’t know him yet?
Dear God, thank You for loving me and being my true Prince. Please help me to bring good to my future husband in all that I do now, if marriage is Your will for me. Help me to love You better above all else. In Jesus’ Name amen.
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