“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator
‘made them male and female’, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave
his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two
will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
- Matthew 19:4-6
When I was in the engagement period before my marriage I had to learn to start leaning on my future husband rather than close friends and family during hardships. I had to chose to go to him before others because we were to become one flesh. Something else I learned was to go to God before anyone else, including my future husband. As hard as it is to want to voice issues and concerns out loud to another human, it is much more beneficial and important to go to Him above all else. Especially when the concern involved my husband.
That was definitely the hardest part because, even though we were to become one, we were/are still two very different people. So, we tend to butt heads a lot on issues. I have learned over the years to pray for my husband rather than vent to someone about it. Now, I’m not saying having a confidante you can go to for any issue is bad because it isn’t. I think everyone should have that one person they can go to to vent because it is healthy to get it out. But I also think it’s much more beneficial to vent to God. He is truly the only One who can fully understand how you are feeling in your situation.
So, while you might be struggling with having to leave behind your family for your soon-to-be new family - just remember that God is there with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. He will be there with you throughout all the changes you will experience. Because let me tell you, living with a man is a huge change. It can be hard if you are picky about the way things are to be done like I am. I had to learn to compromise on a lot of things, and so did my husband. But that’s what becoming one is - making those changes to be more similar to each other.
Friend, I want you to remember that this step in marriage you are about to take is a big one. One that means a lot to not only you, but Our Father in Heaven. He is the most excited for this unity you are about to take part in. He wants to be there every step of the way, so always remember to include Him in your marriage because without Him your foundation may not be sturdy enough to withstand the waves that will come.
1. Regardless of your relationship status, how can you start making time to pray for your future husband and marriage?
2. Think of changes you can make to go to God first before anyone else about anything that comes up - whether that’s about becoming one with your future husband or something else.
Heavenly Father, I come to You today praying for my soon-to-be husband. I want him to feel Your Love through me, and see Your grace represented through me as well. I pray I can always remember to come to You above all else when I’m faced with situations in my marriage I don’t know how to handle. Keep me committed to becoming one flesh and rooted in Your Word daily. In Jesus’ name, amen.
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