But blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made
the Lord their hope and confidence. They are like trees planted along a riverbank, with roots that reach deep into the water. Such trees are
not bothered by the heat or worried by long months of drought.
Their leaves stay green, and they never stop producing fruit.
-Jeremiah 17:7-8 (NLT)
When my husband and I were engaged and going through the wedding planning process we decided it was important for us to find a “marriage verse.” We were aware of the statistics on marriage and divorce. In fact, I was one of those statistics at one point in my life, and I wasn’t willing to be again. We wanted to be anchored to an unshakable foundation and knew having a marriage verse would serve as an important reminder for us. And for me personally, when it came to my wedding and marriage, I wanted to be cautious to not let myself be swept away by the fantasies of Disney and Hallmark romances or the pressures and perfections of Pinterest.
We didn’t want a marriage that just survived or looked “cute.” We wanted one that was thriving because of who God is and what He’s doing in and through us. We wanted our marriage to glorify God and point others to Christ. Which is why we chose Jeremiah 17:7-8. We knew it didn’t matter what circumstances we found our marriage in, if it was rooted in Christ, there would never be a season that could destroy our covenant with Him and each other or one so broken He couldn’t redeem.
Now, I am NOT saying we have a perfect marriage. NOT EVEN CLOSE. We both stumble and sin every single day because we’re human. And if you’ll continue reading in Jeremiah 17 with me, you’ll see that this is nothing new to God!
Verse 9 of that chapter reads: “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked.”
Gosh, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve needed to ask God and my husband’s forgiveness for something I’ve said or done. I know I need Christ at the center of my marriage because I’m selfish to the core. We’re all imperfect people with expectations set on perfection. But, we don’t have to be discouraged, ladies. Remember Jeremiah 17:7? “Blessed are those who trust in the LORD and have made the LORD their hope and confidence.” When we trust and hope in the Lord our marriages will produce fruit aplenty!
We also must be alert and prepared, though. Satan’s arrows have been aiming to distract and destroy the covenant of marriage with God and each other since the moment God created it. When you and your husband intentionally seek God and make Him the foundation of your marriage, satan will do his best to crush you both. Plant your roots deep into Christ and allow Him to sustain and protect you.
If I could encourage you single ladies: don’t look for the Aladdin to your Jasmine or the Jack to your Rebecca. Your future spouse is the son of a victorious and sovereign God. My prayer is that his identity is rooted in God's truth and that he actively pursues God’s heart more than he pursues yours.
If you’re someone like me - who once bore the title of divorcee: God doesn’t want to shame you. He loves you and wants to restore you. Everything you’ve been holding on to. Release it to Him and learn to live a life being in love with God above all else.
Or maybe you find yourself in a marriage that doesn’t have God at the center. Maybe you think it’s broken beyond fixing or filled with physical and/or mental abuse. Please hear me... JESUS IS YOUR ANSWER. HE IS YOUR RESCUER. I don’t know what that specifically means now or in the future for you and your circumstances, but GOD DOES. He sees your pain and loves you deeply. I’m praying you seek His guidance and those that are equipped to Biblically counsel you.
Marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts to us. It is messy and it is hard, but it is beautiful. It’s one of my favorite things on earth. I hope and pray that you get to experience marriage the way God intended it and that it be overflowing with His faithfulness. May we be more in love with Christ than ourselves or our husbands.
1. If you’re not married - What are two ways can you grow closer to God and bring Him glory in your singleness? In what ways can you begin to prepare your heart for marriage through your relationship with God?
2. If you’re married - What are two ways you and your husband can grow closer to God together? In what ways can you bring God glory in the way you interact with each other?
Dear Jesus, thank You for the creating the gift of marriage. Please help me to honor You and my husband with the words I speak, my actions, and my thoughts. Lord, please be near each and every woman that is reading this today. Make Yourself known to them. Stir our hearts to seek You so that we can all experience a marriage that thrives because of You. Please give us the courage to seek help either before and when our marriages need it. Show us what revival in our marriages looks like. In Your mighty name, Amen.
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