People usually joke with me saying that the first sentence out of my mouth upon meeting someone is: “Hi! I’m Molly. Let’s be friends.”
They’re not wrong - which is what I think makes that funny. Deep joy exudes out of me, because most of my life I’ve felt much pain but you’ll probably never see it. I could uncover every pain and hurt I’ve ever experienced, but it would be so long and I don’t want to send you into a silly state of boredom.
As an artistic being growing up in a home where athleticism was supreme, I felt like I was always the puzzle piece with an overall picture of beautiful flowers trying to wedge myself into a puzzle whose overall picture was of Peyton Manning. While both serve beautiful purposes, I just didn’t fit; to say it hurt deeply would be a gross understatement.
I grew up always knowing who Jesus was and what He did for us. On any given Sunday you would find the King family either in a pew in services (yes, multiple), in Sunday School or youth group, teaching kiddos in kids programming, or any other volunteer position available. If the doors were open, we were there. As imperfect as my family is, I’m so grateful that this is part of my story because in each of these avenues I found definition.
As a girl who felt like she didn’t belong at home, I found belonging in the local church. I found that creativity isn’t something to be looked down upon. I found that the God who created the world and me loves when we create to bring glory to Him. I found people who loved and accepted me because Jesus is for everyone, and because of what Jesus did, through faith we are called children of God. I found a place where people, who accepted the love that Jesus extended and offered it to others as an outpouring of His goodness, loved me unconditionally. That feeling of inclusion changed the trajectory of my life.
As I began to grasp the understanding of that beauty of the church, I found God stirring my heart to be that kind of person—no matter what vocation I chose later in life. I continually meditated on the words He spoke in John 13 and 1 John 3:
"So I give you a new command: Love each other deeply and fully. Remember the ways that I have loved you, and demonstrate your love for others in those same ways. Everyone will know you as my followers if you demonstrate your love for others." - John 13:34-35 (The Voice Paraphrase)
"Consider the kind of extravagant love the Father has lavished on us—He calls us children of God! It’s true; we are his beloved children."
- 1 John 3: 1a
When we feel like we are not good enough to be loved and we don’t belong, we should remember that God’s love is greater than our doubts. We must silence the sounds of condemnation so we can hear the voice of God’s loving assurance and remember that He chose us to be a part of His family.
For a girl who felt excluded from her family, there is hope because of a God who chose me. There is hope because of a God who created me in His likeness. There is hope because even when the enemy wants to feed into the lie I’ve been told a majority of my life - that I don’t belong - Jesus tells me that I’m loved and known and not alone. He tells me that, through faith, I am His child.
A few years ago, friends of mine wrote a beautiful song that I go back to whenever these doubts start to creep up again. It’s one that so many resonate with because each of us, in our own ways, have those lies we believe that the enemy likes to throw in our faces when we’re struggling.
Feel like I’m a nobody, wonder if I’ll ever amount to much.
Seems like no matter what I do, it’s never gonna be good enough.
Should I just give up?
Lord, I need to hear you speak
And tell me I am loved
Tell me I am known
That you died for me, I am not alone.
Tell me I’m your child, the one Your heart beats for.
I can find my strength knowing I am Yours
You’ve always known what my heart needs
And You tell me.
(Tell Me by Carrollton)
We’ve all felt that. I feel that. But when we lean in and listen to the voice of Jesus, His definition of us reminds us of our worth, and from that reminder we can include others into the Lord’s definition of us—as His children.
I include others, because God has included me.
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