“She’s so pretty,” “I wish I looked like that,” “If I’d lose about 20 lbs,”

I spent most of my life comparing myself to everyone else, repeating lie after lie, negative comment after negative comment. Dwelling on the parts of myself I disliked, which quickly turned into self-loathing. I began searching for reasons to critique myself in unhealthy ways. I was obsessed with unrealistic standards for how I should look. I put my full identity into my physical appearance, and even then, that image was distorted. I went to extremes to craft my ideal look: I limited my diet harshly and worked out excessively. I was so unhappy with who I was; I wasn’t ever pleased with anything that had to do with me.

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Boy, is that right. Not only does it steal your joy, but it limits your potential. Galatians 6:4-5 says, “Don’t compare yourself with others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. You must each accept the responsibilities that are yours. Never stop doing good.”

When you compare yourself to other people, you lose sight of who you are. You demean your own unique gifts, talents, and the beauty that God created you with. You talk yourself out of using your abilities as a vessel to inspire and love other people. To show them the love and power of God through how you live your life.

I limited myself by comparing myself. I never saw myself the way God sees me. Therefore, I treated myself the way I thought I deserved. I lost who I was amidst the negative comments and unrealistic standards I set for myself. I was trying to better myself in ways that don’t truly matter, the things that don’t ACTUALLY make you more beautiful.

That’s why no matter how hard I tried, I never felt fulfilled.

You will never be satisfied with yourself until you see yourself as a meaningful child of God. It is so important to understand the love God has for you. There is so much potential in store for your life when you live it out fully embracing the talents and gifts that He has anointed you with.

Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are beautiful, I know that full well” We are wonderfully made, we are fearfully made, and most importantly we are beautiful. Once I began seeing myself as a creation of God, my life changed. Letting joy and security reflect back to me in the mirror in clarity and not the distorted image of discontentment and jealousy.

Ladies, unlock that truth and rejoice in the fact that you deserve so much love; recognize your quirks as unique marks of beauty. Know that your heart is what makes you beautiful, your passions, your gifts. Your identity is in God and not what you believe others perceive you as. There is so much more to what defines you then how you look. So love who you are, and know that as you do, God will impact those around you regardless of what you look like. Beauty is so much more than a few pounds or a hair color. Beauty comes from creation and we all are a part of His creation.



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