Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.
- Psalm 27:10
Some of our deepest hurts are formed through some type of rejection. Although rejection is a natural part of life, it does not make the pain and hurt it causes easy to handle. Rejection can come from those closest to us, or from those we are trying to get to know or build a relationship with.
As a child, my father was not a part of my life. At the age of 30, I was able to reconnect with my father. At least, I thought a reconnection was going to occur. My father and I talked on the phone for about two months, as he lives out of state. We had two face to face interactions, which I thought went well. I questioned my father and wanted to hear from him why he decided to not be a part of my life.
This seemed to be too much for him, so he stopped talking to me. Here I am, rejected by my own father, AGAIN. It is about ten years later, and still not a word from my father, and yes, he knows how to contact me. It hurts as much now, as it did when I was a child and ten years ago.
Rejection can make us feel unwanted and not good enough. Being rejected only once can cause us to fear that we will be rejected “all the time.” Negative thoughts creep in our minds and they can make us fear that we will be rejected by everyone. If we allow those negative thoughts to manifest, we can be taken to be a very dark place.
Yes, rejection and the fear of rejection can do this. I know this from experience. But, there is good news! God is there to help us through the fear of rejection and the rejection itself. When we are feeling rejected, it can be hard to believe that God is with us. But trust me sister, He is with us. God will give us a peace that surpasses our understanding when we lean on, trust in, and depend on him.
Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
- Philippians 4:7
We must remember to not allow the fear of rejection to stop us from moving forward. That is what the enemy wants. The enemy wants us to be fearful and not move forward in our purpose. Jesus was rejected by his own people.
He came into the very world he created, but the world didn’t recognize him. He came to his own people, and even they rejected him. - John 1:10-11
Although Jesus was rejected, he did not let the rejection distract or deter him from his purpose, which was to die on the cross so that we can be saved. So, the next time you are rejected by someone, or you are feeling that you will be rejected, take a deep breath and ask God for his peace to guard your heart and your mind. We will not allow the fear of rejection distract us from moving forward in our purpose. God is always on our side!
1. Is the fear of rejection holding you back from moving forward, i.e., applying for a new position/job, registering for a college course, or saying yes to a date?
2. What can you do when you have been rejected and negative thoughts start to manifest?
Father, thank You so much for Your sweet spirit of peace. Father, I pray that You pour out Your spirit of peace on me when I am rejected by someone or when I have the fear of being rejected by someone. Help me to remember to lean on, trust in, and depend on You, as You will always be there for me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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