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The Lies of Motherhood: I Can't Have Kids Because I'm Going to be a Bad Mom

Ayngelea Stevens

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And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those

who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.

- Romans 8:28

There it was again. Just one, not two, blue lines. That one line once again, reminding me of what I may never have. Coldly reminding me that even though I have carefully checked my basal body temperature daily and have faithfully tracked my ovulation and fertility chart, I once again just didn’t quite get it right.

Why am I not getting pregnant? I have done everything right! Is God punishing me for a past mistake? Is He preventing me from getting pregnant because He knows something that I don’t? Maybe I’m not going to live up to His expectations… Maybe I just won’t be a good mom. That’s it! It doesn’t matter what I do, I am going to be a bad mom and because of that I will never bear a child.

Ladies struggling with infertility, have you had those thoughts, or a variation of those, swarming your mind before?

You’re not alone in this, and your emotions are valid. I wish I could answer all the questions about why you haven’t conceived a child, but I can’t. However, I can tell you with all certainty, that God is not punishing you.

You are good enough and He loves you.

He is a good Father and if we live our life believing His Word, then we can rest assured in all seasons, good or bad, knowing “... that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them (Romans 8:28).”


1. Am I believing the lie that I am going to be a bad mom?

2. What steps can I take in believing that I am good enough and God isn’t punishing me?


Hey God, Thank You so much that You are sovereign. I thank You, that You’re good and that Your love is forever and never ceasing to show in all seasons. God, I don’t understand it all right now, and quite frankly it’s hard, but I trust You. I just ask for peace and understanding for what I can’t see and I ask that whatever Your will may be that You send my heart and mind a peace that I can’t comprehend. I love You so much, beautiful Jesus, Amen.



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